Substitute Lover…
When did it become okay to be number two? Is there that much of a limit of men in the world? It’s demeaning! She is truly showing her worth by being the woman on the side to this man who already has a “home”. She will NEVER GOING TO BE NUMBER ONE. EVER!!! Regardless of how much he might tell her about how he is leaving, getting a divorce etc. It’s not going to happen. He comes over to her house, they do the do, he spends a couple of hours if not a couple of minutes because he has to be home before it becomes too suspicious then she is left there ALONE! What goes through the minds of this women? Is she afraid to be alone? Does she think he’s the only man who will ever want her? At the end of the day he’s just using her up and she’s is letting him.
I know a woman who has been with a man for 10 years. He’s been married for 9 years and has three kids with his wife. Oh did I tell you that she’s not his wife nor is she the bearer of his children, he met his wife after her and she’s still with him. Now I’m one to judge so I call that pure stupidity. Desperation! How do you go from being first to being second. Now she says “I’m okay with it and I don’t want another man”. Then when she doesn’t get quality time for two weeks at a time she threatens to leave him and he buys her something to butter her up. He calls her when he’s hungry and you know what she does? She goes and cooks. She works two jobs and his wife barely works. She gets once a week and that’s a sometimes when his wife gets EVERYDAY! It can’t be the money that makes her stay because he’s not very well off. He makes enough to take care of his “home”. Then sometimes comes and asks her for money and guess what she does?
I personally would rather be single for the rest of my life than to second to any woman. This woman is lacking something in the self esteem area. I don’t care how good the sex might be(if that’s what it is) you can get sex from anyone. Too many penis’ in this world to be stuck on one that belongs to someone else. Yes it belongs to the other wife. He said the vows, he signed the papers. SHE HAS HIS LAST NAME! They are a union and she is just the other woman. He obviously didn’t want her that’s why he married another woman. It really simple.
We women have to embrace our strength. A man will only do what you let him. If you let him take advantage he will. If you let anyone take advantage of they will. No one is going to say no when it is so easily given to them. Don’t be the substitute lover!
Dassiray Adaire
very interesting. usually women who are on the side are there because they have the attraction to the man but also they usually have their own life/relationship going on so its not much of burden on their life to mix it up with the fling every once in a blue. The true shame goes to the woman on the side that has NO other relationship or real reason to be sitting on the side.